When the Diva first started cruising message boards to find others with whom to discuss Days of Our Lives, she expected normal conversations about plot, what might happen, maybe little tidbits, and other good things...discussions between civilized adults. What she has discovered over the years, however, has astounded her. Suffice it to say that the Diva will never again scoff at the stereotypes of the crazed soap fan again.
Let me preface this by saying I have friends of every, er, fanbase persuasion. I have actually found intelligent people who like J&M, Bope, Steve/Kayla, Shelle, Shimi, Jate, Ejami, Ejole, Lumi, Tanna, Phloe...et al. These folks can even hold a decent conversation online and they don't think it's the end of western civilization as we know it when things don't go their way on a TV show....
Case in point: the famous chatgate. Oh, my, Drake Hogestyn chose to have a chat with Lauren Koslow. It was the chat heard round the world. Drake committed the ultimate adultery.....against the Jammer fanbase. This resulted in black roses, weed killer sprayed in the general direction of Lauren Koslow, drunkenness, and general debauchery.
Then there are those very young J&M fans who insist that the "love affair" crossed into real life. Drake's darling real life wife, Victoria, was the jealous interloper. Wow.
Then there are the radical EJami fans. I have very good EJami fans. I love them dearly. They have common sense. They know the lousiness of the whole writing for the couple. We all have couples who, despite the crummy writing, we just love. We can't help ourselves. We know they're not perfect. However, there are those few who used to think what James Scott said was gospel. He was GAWD with a Capital GAW. However, there has been a recent article featuring James Scott and Arianne Zucker which hasn't set too well with some of his more, er, enamoured fans. James made the fatal mistake of mentioning how he enjoyed working with Arianne. They had cute pictures. He mentioned something about asking fans who EJ should be with, and apparently, it was pretty 50-50 Nicole and Sami. All of a sudden, James was the adulterer to the EJami cause. Or, he was misunderstood. Or, his words were twisted. One snarky James "fan" on a board is wondering whether James has the hots for Arianne. One mentioned Arianne's 'wrinkles" and how she's too old for him. Several mentioned the huge Ejami fanbase. And, of course, there's the ever-present "They OWE us something. We're waiting for a payoff!!" Never mind Lumi fans said the same thing. Never mind that this is a soap and a positive payoff for a couple relegates them to either the sympathetic town ear or the town busybody.
Then some Ejami fans bashed Ali Sweeney on her own blog for being happy that Bryan Dattilo was back on the show. They thought she betrayed Ejami.
It makes the Diva wonder what the poor actors have to deal with in real life. Many of these fans wander from board to board...some banned, some coming up with new usernames.....all of them seeming to scream for some attention that someone isn't giving them somewhere.
Seriously, actors are people too. It's ok for them to want to work with other actors. They are not betraying you if they enjoy working with other people on occasion. I'm sure there's radical fans in every fanbase. Fanbases shouldn't be judged by a few nuts. Getting mad at an actor because you don't think they are shipping your favorite couple is crazy. The Diva honestly doesn't get why fans prefer the couples/characters over the actors. Seriously, these couples are fictitious!
The Diva enjoys reading boards. There are the folks who have real lives. They know the difference between reality and fiction and are able to carry on debates about TV shows and walk away, if not shaking hands, at least respectful and honorable. But, the Diva has to wonder what the lives of these sad, obsessed people are like. What will they do when the show is cancelled? Kudos to the fans who enjoy the past, but realize that life goes on. Here's to you!